The holidays. They’re the happiest time of the year; often filled with laughter, family and gifts. People are friendlier, more giving and there’s a glow about them. The euphoric feeling of joy is felt through everyone that looks forward to it and it shows.

But to many, it’s the complete opposite. 

Now, please don’t get me wrong, I love the holidays. They used to be the most wonderful time of year for me; well, before I became divorced and then all of that changed. The truth is, there are many people that dread this time of the year. It’s a reminder of the hollowness of what their life has become. Whether it’s a broken marriage, a lost loved one or just being alone, the holiday cheer is nothing they look forward to. 

And its just plain hard. 

I know and I can relate. Having to deal with loneliness during this time is challenging. Depression sets in and you feel trapped by it. Those feelings of abandonment and worthlessness creep in and they consume every part of your existence. While everyone is enjoying the excitement, you struggle to even break a smile. Trust me, I’ve been there. 

Depression is very real and it’s around the holiday season we see a lot of people slip into its ugly hands, and sadly succumb to suicide. This is the harsh reality of many people and we sometimes turn a blind eye to it because let’s be honest, no one wants to be pulled down by sadness. Its still stigmatized and a lot times there’s no REAL outlet for the raw feelings that come with being depressed. 

Today, I want to encourage you that you don’t have to suffer alone. You’re not in this by yourself and I can tell you that you’re NOT the only one that feels this way. There’s no shame in being depressed but there’s freedom from it. Even with every lonely thought, tear and feelings of rejection, I know that there is one person that can take it all away. 

His name is Jesus. 

You might say, “How can I know that He’s even there?” When you cry, He promised to wipe every tear away (Revelation 21:4). He also promised to give you beauty for the ashes of your hurt and pain (Isaiah 61:3). But most importantly, He promised to be close to your broken heart (Psalm 34:18) and will never leave nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6). We may not be able to see Him but we can rest assure that He is there. 

This holiday season, I encourage you to get out and find a local support group to join. Also, there are many shelters and organizations that need volunteers and will love and appreciate your help. Giving is so much better than receiving and someone out there needs your support, love, care and your smile. There’s a beauty in making someone else happy. It can probably turn your sorrows into hope. 

There’s life in you. 

If you know someone or even yourself that need someone to talk to you, please call  the National Suicide Hotline at 1-800-273-8255.